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I, too, prepared myself for people to make comments or show disapproval of my decision to adopt as a single woman. Therefore, I waited until I was pretty far along in the process before I started telling people.
I did tell my parents before I actually got started. I was worred about their response, but they were immediately supportive. I waited to tell my siblings as I knew that they would speak their mind and, not knowing what their mind would be, didn't want to be swayed by anything they would say. So I was well along in the paperchase before I discussed it with them. Turns out they were all very supportive as well.
I think in all, I had one of my brother-in-laws that 'concerned'. He didn't express it, but I could tell from his reaction that something wasn't right. I pushed him to get him to explain how he felt. He was concerned about knowingly going into a single-parent situation. He was entitled to his opinion and never forced it on me, so I didn't force mine on him.
One co-worker felt the need to remind me about all the 'poor children from Romania that ended up being so mal-adjusted' that she had seen on 20/20 a million years ago. I think as soon as it was out of her mouth, she realized how inappropriate it was to say to me and made an excuse and walked away.
Those are my only moments of non-support. Everyone at my church was so excited for me, all my co-workers have been supportive, and my family has totally embraced Henry as part of the family.
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