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I also am not disagreeing.
I agree that he should be getting tons of attention, that is not what I was trying to say. I would keep him in the room with me as much as possible, I would do one-on-one activities as much as possible and I would do attachment parenting. However, I know from experience, that children with attachment disorder (and I don't know if this child has it or not) will use demands such as this to control their parents. I've seen my daughter do it over and over. And when I finally lose my patience she stops and smiles and will even say, "looks like I won." She is intentionally doing it. She may not totally even realize it what she is doing consciously, but its purpose is to control.
I'm not saying set boundaries as punishment. No, the child should not be punished for it, because it may not be conscious. But, it is inappropriate to demand for parents to be on call at all times. And children need to learn appropriateness.
Maybe, when he does this, go in and pick him up and hold him while looking into each others eyes. Initially, this may be done almost all day, but as the child feels safer, it will decrease.
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