well, the honeymoon period can be very short lived for some kids.
but i also wanted to disagree with them 'doing it on purpose' to get you angry.
i think some kids do this, but not all do.
these two boys are very young, so they are looking for attention due to the lack of attention that they had in their pasts.
they need to feel safe, and they probably dont even realize it at that age, but they want to see you. they want to make sure you are still there.
i do think they are testing but they arent doing it on purpose, they are doing it to survive!!!
now here is where people will go after me...lol
my suggestion is cater to those needs (yes, it will make you crazy) but in time those attention getters will lessen.
let them know that you are there and you are very very interested in everything they have to say, show you, or whatever it is they want.
if they demand things. ask them to say please and then get it for them. I disagree that we need to set the boundaries right off the bat, i think some our kids have missed out on the 'when i cry, mommy gets me my bottle' thing.....so for attachment reasons, we did this..(not so much with a bottle, but with the demands)
yes, it became exhausting, but in time, trust build and attachment also. our kids missed out on alot of that stuff.
I think this is extremely important in the beginning to let them know that you are taking care of them and you havnt disappeared.
in time, things should quiet down, but it can take a while. 5 weeks is NOT a LONG time at all...this kinda of attachment building takes alot of work in the beginning, but hopefully they 'get it'
just felt i had to pipe in for the boys, i dont think they are doing it on purpose in a spiteful way, but more for a
survival way and they might not even know they are doing it.....its just automatic for them. just as babies scream and cry when they want something.
our goal is to re-wire their brains and try to fill in some of the pieces of things that they might of missed when they were growing up in a dysfunctional home
just adding my two cents to maybe look at it differently. I didnt want you to think that the boys need to be punished or something because they are asking you to look at something.
I think 5 weeks is way to short of time to really figure out why the boys keep callling you so i would look at the cup half full then half empty at this stage.
lets see what it looks like in a year...
just remember, they will test you, and the reason they are doing this is to see if you can really take care of them, and i think we need to feed them when they are hungry, we need to show we are interested in what they have to say.
now on to something else....
just remember, that i do believe alot of kids like to show people that they care about things they have found, saw on tv, or whatever.
your boys are still very young, and they are still discovering things and that could be it too, just that simple, that alot of kids do that, adoptive or birth.