My biggest lesson was also about birthmothers. My most ignorant preconceived notion was that available children were unwanted by their birthmothers. Not true in an overwhelming majority of cases. In Guatemala the children are relinquished due to what the birthmothers perceive as necessary means for survival for both themselves and the children. Hub and I have also reconsidered our position on open vs closed adoption. It's not for everyone but
it is for us.
My biggest and best lessons came from branching out to the adoptee and birthmother forums. I gained perspective from reading experiences and advice from the other three corners of the triad and feel better prepared to handle and curb
possible future issues with my precious son.
This is a great thread and I look forward to reading all the responses.
