Thanks, Schuggi!
Yeah, I agree. If things are done illegally, than the birthparents have every right to fight for their kids.
I can't imagine the pain that goes into relinquishing. And the regret that can be there and the desire to do things over... I can't imagine living with that for the people who do. And I can't blame birthparents who want so badly for things to have been different. And I agree, that birthparents don't come back as often as the media suggests. Not for that reason.
I hope that open adoption becomes more accepted for people doing domestic adoptions. I don't know, maybe I'm naive, but I would imagine it really is the best way in many cases for birthparents and adoptees. I admit, I may be naive, and I KNOW I'm idealistic..
But if someone choses adoption for their child and they want to remain in their child's life... it's their right.
Anyway, I'll stop here. I can go on and on. lol. But thanks for your kind words!