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Hi Julie,
I went to visit my dentist a few months ago... Oct I think. It was going to be my last visit since I was moving the end of that month across state. So... he asked how my baby was (6 months prior I had been expecting, so he assumed all was well). I told him that hadn't worked out so now we were looking into adoption.
Well. He has an adopted daughter from India. And I had no idea. I think it's wonderful. But you should have heard him knocking domestic adoption and how he's *sure* the only reason we were going domestic was to get a CC baby (not true) and that the birthparents can and will come back at any time to reclaim their baby. And that this is stuff his very well qualified, very expensive atty assured him of when he adopted 11 years ago.
I was at a loss. How an educated man can be so ignorant.
Unfortunately, you'll hit lots of experiences like this. And, on the plus side, you'll hit many unexpectedly pleasant ones, too.
For me, I don't have it in me to educate every person who is so disillusioned. I just don't. I deal with it in knowing that they just don't know and they don't get it and no matter how much I try to explain they're not going to get it, so now I don't waste my breath. If someone asks, that's a different story, because if they're asking they really want to learn. But you can't teach someone who's not really interested in learning.
Maybe your friend will become enlightened if he is able to get involved with the crush you mentioned. Never know?
Stinks, either way, that you had to have some negative vibes.
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