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I was on a call with an officer I've known for years -- a pretty easy going fellow. We were talking about his daughter and he asked about us having kids.

When I told David that we were adopting, he got very alarmed. He said that he had an adopted older brother who made his life miserable growing up because he ended up with mental problems and beat the heck out of him all the time. His brother has been in and out of prison all his life.

David wasn't ugly but he obviously thought we were crazy for even considering adoption. He shook his head and said he hoped it worked out for us. It's apparent he was vehemently opposed to adoption. I mentioned to him that the young officer he has a crush on has four adopted siblings and I could tell by the look on his face it completely changed his feelings about her.

I wasn't offended but very much at a loss for words. I felt sorry for him. I guess I need to be prepared that there are some people out there with very strong anti-adoption feelings but I'm not sure how to prepare for that. I don't think its right to tell him his feelings are wrong since he was so obviously very hurt growing up.