I missed the poll - I'm often untimely in such matters anyway.
We have an open adoption legally binding agreement with both the bmom & bdad. We agreed to 6 visits a year + phone calls, letters, photos, etc. This legally binds us for 18 years. (state of Washington)
I must admit that it was frightening for us to sign it even though we were/are perfectly accepting of what we signed. Things are fine with our whole family (including birthparents). While we don't have an open adoption poster family, we still maintain a caring relationship. The odd thing (IMO) is that WE are the ones who are continuously making the arrangements to see them, to call them, to send updates, etc.
We are hoping to adopt another and have turned done baby born sitations because of the lack of openness.
Are there any of you in such a situation?
SAM