[Navy_RP_Wife]

On November 14th, we had our first foster children placed with us. We knew about 4 days in advance that they were coming. So we took our 9 year old bio son and went shopping. We got the things that we would need to for these kids. Our fd is 6 and her brother is almost 4. Their history is fairly common yet heartbreaking too: bd in jail, mom addicted to crystal-meth, alcohol, etc. She's prosituted (fd told me she was glad I didn't ear high heels because that meant I was going out to do something bad), has been homeless with the kids. This is the 3rd time they are trying to reunify the family, which hubby and I do not agree with. When the kids were removed the 3rd time from her she stated her reason for relapse is because "its to stressful to parent both of the kids". Based on the Christmas gifts they recieved, its safe to say she favors her daughter, not her son. Anyways, our fd M, is "parentified" they say, she was the caretaker for both her brother B and mom. M is getting alot better is flourishing here, we tell her that her only job here is to learn to be a little girl. B on the other hand will drive you past the brink of insanity!! B doesn't seem to be attached to anyone but his sister, though he tells us he loves us all the time. He refuses to follow the rules or do what he is told. B spends alot of time in time out. When he does something wrong you ask him what he did and he can tell you exactly what he did wrong and he did it "because he wanted to." Now he has taken to urinating himself in the mornings because he is to lazy or tired to get out of bed, his excuses not mine. There is suspicion that he is a drug exposed baby. In this little boy's short life, he has either been left in the care of his sister (they were left home alone alot), dumped on others or with a family friend or in foster care. These children want to go home to mom, but tell us at the same time they like it here because they love us all, we don't move all the time, we take care of them, there is always enough food to eat, etc etc They were placed in foster care right before M's 6th birthday and she was wearing a size 3/4, she is now in a 7/8! We have little struggles with M, but B will bring us to tears because it seems we can not get him to mind us. The SW said she has seen alot of improvement in B, not to get discouraged. Any ideas what to do with him?

Thanks you and God bless!