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Originally Posted By thankfulmom

I would rather have a closed adoption for some personal reasons, in this case it seems to be what the birth parents want too. They are in their mid 40's and do not want to disrupt their life. I wouldn't object to sharing photos and letters and such but they say they do not want even that. I do not know about the birth mom but the birth dad, my husbands uncle does not have much to with any of his other children. He needs alot of prayer to get his life turned around. My oldest brother is also adopted and because of his age (36) his was a closed adoption also he is very secure but mostly i think because my mom did a wonderful job of teaching him that his is a wonderful story of love by two women and not something to hide. My mother says you only hide what you are embarrased by. needless to say he was raised knowing he was adopted and that his birthmom loved him enough to do what she felt was best for him. I plan to do the same with any of my children. What is the Primal Wound?