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Thanks for all the feedback. It’s good to know that I’m not alone in this issue.

My MIL has always been a horrible, two faced person…especially toward me (her son had the nerve to marry a person SHE did not select type thing). We’ve had to limit contact with her for other reasons related to the safety of our children. Although they only live 2 hours away, we only see them once or twice a year. As to my friend, I’ve pretty much decided that she is not going to be invited to our home again. Not for the big birthday bash in Jan or for Z’s finalization and party this spring. I do believe that she doesn’t want to get attached to a child that is not going to be with us forever, and I respect that side of things. We are all entitled to our feelings and we are all entitled to guard our hearts if needed. What I cannot and will not tolerate is blatantly different treatment of children in my home, ever. They are CHILDREN, not issues, not at risk legal process, not the mistakes of parents, not problems that should just go away. CHILDREN! Anyway, on the other side, we have been floored by how many other people in our lives have fully embraced these children for whatever amount of time they are with us! Their willingness to love our foster children unconditionally lets us know that we have chosen our friends well! I even got a few presents sent to our newest fs (nine weeks old). Those small toys were like gold to me… I could not have asked for a better Christmas present!!!