I got to meet her at a retreat not too long ago. She told me she wanted feedback from people who had read the books. You can email her via her site (just make sure to put something in the subject so she knows what it is about, otherwise she may treat it as spam.)
http://www.nancyverrier.com/index.php
On the victamization thing, definalety read the next book. She gives a kick in the pants to those acting the victim while explaining why you can feel like that. (more of "you can be a victim but that doesn't mean you can 'act the victim'" instead put that energy into something more constructive.)