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Wow I just realized tonight I had not come to the forums for almost 2 years. I have been reading all these post and had to respond to this one. I am not sure why someone birthparents/lifeparents do not want an open adoption yes it is a bitter sweet relationship but so worth it. I had Elle 3 years ago and did an open adoption and even as I type this waves of emotions roll through my body, mostly all of joy.
We had our Christmas this past Friday night and the best gift I got was when she told me she came from my tummy becauseI love her. Or the way she played with her older sister and hugged my mother as she called her Grammie.
In these last three years I have watched their family and mine grow into one. Since then they have adopted another child a beautiful baby boy.My little girl even referes to him as her little brother.Their last adoption is nothing like ours.The birth family is not involved at all.I often wonder why his mother wants no contact her son is beautiful and so sweet.I also wonder how he will feel when he is older and his birthmother is not in his life as I am in his sister Elle's.
Please know that not all visits I leave with a smile sometimes tears do roll down my cheek as I kiss her goodnight and wait for the next month to come so I can kiss her again.If I had to do it again would I ? Yes I would and still would have no regrets. She is happy healthy and in my life. I may not be her Mommy but I am her birthmommy and she loves me.
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