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Originally Posted by Kiki13_13
I am almost 19. As my mother has always known that she was adopted, so have I. I understood that she was very young (15 when she got pregnant, 16 when she had my mom). I have never thought anything bad of her for giving my mother up. I never thought of her as a grandmother though until she recently became part of our lives.
My younger brother is eight. I think he understands better than we did of her giving up my mom because he will say things like, "How old was grandma when she had mom?" ANd when we tell him it was the age of my younger sister he'll say, "Well how could she (my sister) have a baby? She is so young." So I think this puts in perspective why my birth grandmother placed my mother for adoption.
I hope this helps.
Kiki
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It does Kiki..
My bson has three kids.. the oldest one is about eight or nine.. I met my bson and the kids about five years ago.. the youngest was just a baby.. I worried that they would wonder about how a person could give their baby up.. Or if it could happen to them..
And just writing this gives me the realization that I am thinking negative thoughts.. Doing a ‘what if’..
Its interesting.. my daughter (when she was in high school) brought a girlfriend home who was adopted.. The friend and I had long conversations.. She found her birthmom a few years after that..
My daughter also ended up having a boyfriend who was adopted.. He was a wild man.. and I loved him.. He would come for dinner and I always gave him a hug..
They separated… I still ask about him as he is still part of her circle..
Nice memories..
Jackie