[vh9076]

This is a good thread. I think w/o the dad present it is pretty touchy. That may be why people start with asking about the Dad first. Funny how we find questions about "is he yours" "who is the father" the most offending when we know what they are trying to get at.

This teaches me that if we, as adoptive families, do not know how to start a conversation in an innocent, non-offending way, that we can't be so hard on others that mis-step when they ask us about our families. It's kind of fun to laugh about one liners here...what we wish we could say to the "dumb, intolerant, ignorant" questions we get...but in real life, I will be patient and open. (I say that now...)

Keep the advice coming, because I have often not said anything even though I was dying to!

Vicki