[KansasMom]

We too had a failure just last month attempting to adopt throught the state foster care system. We were a week away from signing the placement agreement on a 9 year old girl when we made the heartbreaking decision that to move forward would jeopardize our family.

We had no help, no support in the process from anyone in the system even though looking back our case fairly screamed for help. It didn't help that the state case manager laughed at us when we called a meeting to inform them of our decision. We have heard from no one since then, and our social worker made it clear we were probably blacklisted.

Now we see why, even though it is costly, so many people adopt internationally.