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"I think that the choice you are making for your baby is a very admirable one and please don't let anyone make you feel badly about any decision that you make. "
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Andy, I am a birth mom, not an adoptive mom and have a different take than the poster above. While I wouldn't want to make anyone feel badly about their decision; I cannot judge whether your considering adoption for your child is admirable or not based on what little I now know. While I do not want to make you feel badly, I do hope that you carefully consider your decision including the possible long term affects. Sometimes adoption is a wise decision; sometimes not. It is rarely IMHO a one-time event. I consider the act of placing a child neither worthy of praise or condemnation. It bothers me when some adoptive parents automatically praise a woman considering adoption for her child. However, I suppose it makes sense that they would.
I know what losing a child to adoption feels like many years down the road. And
my heart goes out to you to have this heavy decision before you.
If you read some of the other discussions in "Considering your options" and "Unplanned Pregnancy", you will see the voices of many birth moms with varying opinions.
You will get a great deal of praise here for placing your child for adoption - there are many "waiting mothers" here. I will only say for now that placing a child for adoption is a highly significant event - and I hope you explore all your options carefully before you proceed. If you want to discuss your situation privately, feel free to PM me.