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Adoption is a lifelong committment, he shouldn't adopt the daughter if this is an issue. My father adopted me and my parents got divorced about 10 years later. But my dad was always my dad until he passed away a few years ago. No he didn't seek custody with the divorce, but it is more common for mothers to be the custodial parent (I know, not all cases). I image they could sign a pre-nup agreement but really, unless he isn't going to make a life-long committment to the daughter, disaude him from adopting her, being a step-father can be a fine thing as well.
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Happy mom to 2 daughters, one by birth the other by adoption
Adoption journey: homestudy completed 7/04, signed with facilitator 11/04, matched 12/04, daughter born 2/05, adoption final 4/05
Fost/Adopt journey: legal risk, preadoptive placement of V 10/08, state went to reuniting 1/09, V back w/family 7/09, state seeking custody again 11/09 - too late for us.
9/09 preadoptive match made from photolisting with boy T, will meet in person 10/09, placement potentially 11/09
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