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I haven't seen the movie yet, but it has been discussed on many boards that I am part of. So yeah, many others have made the same connection.
Th other interesting thing in the movie, as it was discussed, is how when one mother bird had her baby die, she tried to "adopt" another woman's baby. The birds in unison would not let her. As a group, they wouldn't break the bond.
I think that we don't often want to see the bond that occurs inutero, because that makes adoption very messy.
I personally think that if the bond between mother and child was allowed to really develop naturally after birth..like without "feeling like I was having their baby", and "remembering why I made an adoption plan in the first place and now I just had to be strong", etc. then, I think there would be less relinquishments.
Like I look back to those who expereinced adoption in the Baby Scoop Eras, where they were fighting it tootha and nail but had no choice and were refused access to their babies vs. the moms of today who do see the babies, but are so enveloped in the mentality of "being a birthmother" including the "I wanted to sign off as soon as possible so that they could go and become the family they were ment to be"....and I think....yeah, they know in the industry to be afraid of the natural bond.
I suppose I should see the darn movie already.
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