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Originally Posted by mn125
But it is at this time of year, I have my fondest memories of Christmas gatherings of family with her. She and her current husband have in the past made arrangements for 3 former husbands, including my husbands 1st father, their current wives, and all their children to gather under her roof for an entire week at Christmas. As only the Grinch could relate- my heart grew ten times that Christmas morning, as dh made his way around the breakfast table patting each man on the back and saying "Good Morning Dad" "Good Morning Dad" "Good Morning Dad" ect LOL. Each of these men had parented my husband at some point during his life. His relationship was strong enough with each of them to feel secure enough to call them each Dad. There were no hurt feelings, or issues of ownership as in "I am your only father". It opened my heart and mind to having more than one......and to ponder- is there really such a thing as an EX-mother and EX-father?
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OT but MN, your story warms the cockles of my heart.
It sounds a lot like my own family. My dad and mom divorced but dad remarried 5 years ago (altho he and stepmom were together a lot longer than that). Anyhoo - for my sister's HS graduation last year it was dad, stepmom, mom, half-bro who my mom helped raise (from a 3rd woman), grandma (mom's mom), me, dh and assorted people from mom's church...we had THE BEST TIME together!!! I tell ya, I have ex-aunts and ex-uncles who've been divorced more than half my life who are welcomed at every family gathering!! A couple years back, my aunt introduced her ex and his wife this way, "This is one of my very best friends,
Jane, and this is her husband, my ex,
John. Together we share a daughter,
Jill." Aren't families like this great?? DH's family is so totally insulated, not at all like mine...no worries tho - we've adopted DH warts and all!