[Southernroots]

Something to think about - there are a million possible scenarios that may or may not happen in this adoption. But, I sense an excessive amount of worry on your part right now - probably very normal, but, I bet it doesn't feel good.

How about this? Try to enjoy every day and moment with your child, relax and take one day at a time. I believe if you keep worrying too much about all the dires things that COULD happen, this whole adoption may seem overwhelming. It is somewhat like a really hard task or job that one needs to perform. If you break it down into small pieces and do a bit at a time, it will not seem so difficult.

If the father does call some day, hopefully by then, you will be relaxed and secure enough to gracefully handle the situation with him. Do not allow him to put the blame on you if his issues are with the birth mother. If he wants to argue with you, quietly tell him than you do not wish to do so. Better to talk to him if you can handle it, as referring him to your attorney or the agency might sound cold and unfriendly. It will be better for the child if you can have a decent relationship with the birth dad. However, if you feel you need to, refer the father to the attorney or agency.

Try not to let any potential problems that may or may not occur prevent you from enjoying your parenting of this child. Always remember that whatever you do, think of the child first and do not let ego or pride or any other negative emotion affect your decisions.