Oooh, I'm excited that this discussion is flowing so well.
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Leigh, that was an awesome explanation. I particularlly like your reasonings of not wanting to limit the growth of your relationship and the fact that you wouldn't take your child's birthmother to court over the contract either. I think we often forget that in a legal contract (such as we're discussing) BOTH sides are accountable and responsible for action.
I do slightly agree with Brad, however, that it's just plain old hard for expectant parents considering adoption (and even new birthparents post-placement) to trust a complete set of strangers, even if they are offering the "morally binding" agreement. (As I'm sure it's hard for the adoptive family to get a good feel for the birthfamily. Trust simply takes time, in my opinion.)
I don't know where a good middle ground is in regards to the issues that Brad brought up (which ARE serious issues; we see all too often that things are promised and simply never delivered) and the issues Leigh brings up (adoption is NOT co-parenting in ANY way, shape or form).
Hmmm.
And, with that, big hugs to sugarbaby'smama. *hugs* It's okay to be angry. If I had been in your situation, I would have the exact same feeling regarding any court system in my family. No doubt. *more hugs*
Continue to discuss.
I'll try to form a coherent opinion... soon.
