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Am I right in understanding that it is the father that you dont want to know where the baby is???
My opinion on that is that the child has a birthmother and a birthfather. The relationship between them should be between them and not what you base your relationship with each of them on.
Perhaps the best resoluition would be to write a letter to his family.. with pictures... and find out what they want. You being reasonable may eleviate any trouble at the get go. Then you wont have to constantly be worried about something happening.
As for who or what the birthmom told... I really think that it is unreasonable to expect her to not share the information-- expecially when it is his child (you know what I mean...?).. Her initial description of what happened may have been spun... OR waters may have warmed as tempers cooled.... Like I said... that has to be between them and she should have told him up front that the baby was going to a family member.. he may have had input about a family member of his that he preferred. It 'sounds' like she made the decision without him. Of course he would be mad....
Rambling....
Bottom line... IMO you should simply ask what they are looking for. They may not be looking for anything. It will kill you to sit there and be angry and paranoid when you should be able to concentrate on the baby.
Did you say how you found out the info? If you heard 3rd party.. it probably wasnt meant for you to have. And if the 3rd party wasnt his family.. then you might step back and wonder if they have any intentions at all....
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