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It was really helpful that we had discussed everything about the hospital before we were actually there. My social worker also sent a letter of introduction of sorts that had my written plan so the hospital would be prepared. It helped because the adoptive parents were given free access to my room and the nursery window (without having to worry about following visiting hour guidelines) and the nurses knew they needed to show the adoptive parents how to take care of a newborn and not me. (I was not emotionally able to do many of the babycare things and I certainly wasn't willing to watch the adoptive parents learn how to do it. At that point, I needed to take care of me and not twist the knife of knowing I wouldn't be the one caring for her.)
The nurses also knew we wanted everything in triplicate-foot prints, copies of the birth certificate, pictures, most paperwork...The adoptive parents, birthfather and I each wanted a copy of everything.
It made things go so much smoother.
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