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Julie,
Thanks for your post and opening it up to us adoptees. Just so you know, I had an unusual relationship with my adoptive family. I was the only girl, so my aparents always felt that that was why I felt different.. Not the case, I have met my entire bfamily and I can tell youthat I totally fit in there. I can't explain why I felt different, I just did. I loved my afamily and I thought they loved me. Since my reunion with my bmother, I still have contact with my 4 abrothers, but not with my aparents. After I found and developed a relationship with my bfamily, my aparents were offended and no matter how much I told them that I always appreciated them and their raising me, they "abandoned" me. I was officially disowned by my aparents. My bmother didn't abandon me, they did. How much sense does that make? My adad kept telling me that my bmom abandoned me at birth, which was not true. I know her story, he doesn't. My bmom gave me up because she had another child, was 19 and didn't have the money to raise me. Despite the fact that her "friends" tried to abort me, I was born. She gave me up out of necessity, not because she didn't love me. Unfortunately, I think alot of us adoptees grow up being told that our bmom's didn't want us and abandoned us. In some cases this may be true, but in a large number of cases, it's done out of love for their children. I hope that I have given you some food for thought.
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