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My husband and I are going through the placement process at the moment. We are at the very beginning. We have talked a lot with our future daughter's foster parents and we'll have our first "official" meeting with her on Dec 9th. We actually stumbled across her when we were meeting another little girl at the foster home (sibling group of 2 girls, one born on Oct 27th). We fell in love with her immediately and when it didn't work out with the original girls, we inquired on T.
The process has been slow. We met her on Oct 18th. Inquired on Oct 25th. Confirmed that she was available for adoption, submitted our homestudy and then got on the rollercoaster. Getting information from her social worker has been like pulling teeth but everything is finally moving. T's foster parents have been excellent in helping us get more information. Her social worker actually told us to talk to them to learn more. They have set up a meeting with her therapist, got us in touch with her teachers via email and kept us apprised of her struggles and accomplishments. For us, this close relationship with the foster parents is probably going to help a lot in the placement process. T will see that we have their approval and hopefully transfer that to herself. She has been with them for three years and trusts them.
I think what has helped most though is having an outlet when we get a day of questionable news (it is a rollercoaster). I took up quilting. It helps immensely with the wait. Chocolate also helps. My husband and I baked two chocolate cakes the other weekend. MMmmmm.
Good luck to you! Searching is fun but I know it can be frustrating too!
Torina
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