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Originally Posted by Nicole28
"I would never adopt a child, I really believe that parents should raise their own children, or be raised by family members. Because I feel adopted kids are ever really accepted into a family, no matter what people say."
Here's what I say - as far as I know, my parent's could not concieve, and so adoption was one of their only options. You know what? In reality, it isn't always in the best interest of the child to be raised by their biological families...this is why we have a foster care system, etc. in our country. The idea that children are "better off" raised by their bio-families is very narrow-minded...that is like saying "Well, this child's biological family are alcoholics and physically abusive, but at least this child is being raised by his biological parent's!" It's almost like denial in my opinion. In some circumstances, I agree that it might have been better for an adoptee to be raised by their biological family, but, in most situations, the adoptive family wants nothing more in the entire world than to welcome a baby into their home, and to love them and raise them.
Nicole
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((Nicole))
Thank you for your wonderful post!!! (((hugs)))
I guess I fail to see where blood makes someone a family.
I have grown up in my blood family for my entire life and I am not one bit like any of them. I was never accepted, never loved, always too sensitive, too emotional, too this or too that. Just because I have the same blood in my veins means NOTHING. Blood doesn't keep you warm, it doesn't put a set of arms around you when you are hurting or down, it doesn't care if you have the same DNA or not, blood is just that, something that sustains our life. It does not make our life. My family's blood is in my veins, but I would have rather had a warm set of supporting arms to hold me and guide me instead of someone who thinks I am a possession because I was created by them.
Love is what matters. Love is what makes you feel like you can fly or if you want to die. Love, support, acceptance and honesty is the basis that each of us need to have a healthy start in life.
For my children, I choose to have open adoptions with their bparents, not because they have the same blood, but because they love and care for these children. Love is the common element to me, not blood. Blood means nothing to me. Take any child that was abused or left emotionally numb from their blood families and ask them how they feel about blood? One always thinks the grass is greener on the other side, sometime it is not.