[jaydensmommy]

I am wondering if she is thinking of trying to parent (unsure of her adoption plan) and having you as a back-up if she chooses not to parent. That's the only reason that I can think of for that. Others on the boards may have other ideas.

You may also not be aware of this, but she is not a birth-mom until she signs relinquishment papers. She would be considered either a potential birthmom or expectant mother until she makes the decision after the birth of her child. I understand your concerns for the child, but again, it is her child until/unless she signs relinquishment.

Have you talked to her to see why she wants to take the baby home first? Have you asked if she is having second thoughts? If you have an open relationship can you talk to her about it? Maybe she can let you know her thoughts behind the decision.

I hope all goes well.