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Originally Posted By Ashley

I have noticed after reading several messages on the board today and over the past few days, that there seems to be some insensitive things being said.

I wanted to point out that we all are in this boat TOGETHER! Regardless of age, parenting experience, exposure to children, number of children, etc. We are all adopting, or have adopted children with needs.

It would be a shame if someone who was in need of help came to this board and was met with something that was less than helpful and supportive.

I think that in one way or another we all are able to offer assistance in our own areas of expertise. Whether it be with dealing with an energetic toddler to dealing with RAD,ODD and acting out in the many ways we all have something to offer.

I understand the need to "warn" people of the pitfalls of adoption. But it would be a terrible shame if in the process of warning someone that they were talked out of adopting.

I hope to see the mood of the board can change soon. I have found it very helpful and supportive in the past. But if it continues in the manner it has I intend on going through my process without it. I don't need any more stress and disappointment than I already have within my adoption process.

A very hopeful,
Ashley