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Originally Posted By Dana

I was so happy to read your message. My husband and I have a 2 year old biological daughter who is the joy of our lives. We are now considering adopting a child from Russia. Even years before our daughter was born we had hoped to have one biological child and then adopt a child. However, recently I have been reading so many negative things about adoption. Mostly, we have been reading that even with all lots and lots of love and support, that many adopted children do not feel attached to their adopted families. It seems that the issues don't really set in until they are in their late teens or are adults. We always knew there would be issues unique to adoption; however, the more we read the more scared we get about adopting. I really want our children to be close- or at least feel as though they really are family. I was wondering if you felt this way- like everything is great now and you are bringing so many issues into the family. I would also like to know your reasons for adopting. Are you able to have more children biologically? We would really appreciate any insight you could provide. It's nice to know someone is going through a similar situation.