[Shoshana]

Yes, it was extremely rude, and ignorant. One (inappropriate) comment that comes to mind is, "oh, I'm so sorry to learn that you suffer from brain inversion syndrome." Yeah, inappropriate, but her response was way out of line.

It appears to me that the issue of Chinese kids (or kids from any other country) being more "needy" than US kids is not the point -- nor should anyone have to "justify" why and how they formed their family. It sounds to me like she's being nationalistic, and perhaps racist, so no rational comment is going to make an impact.

If this were my (ex) friend, I'd have to explain to her, and everyone else in the play group, why I chose to terminate my friendship and participation in the group.