[crick]

Jules...doesn't sound like you had a very good agency working on your behalf. At all! There is absolutely no way that a placement should have happened like this! It's not good for you and it's certainly not good for the children. How the heck were the girls supposed to be prepared at all for such a huge transition?? My God!

I understand the fm needed to leave due to personal reasons and I'm sure they didn't want to do 2 transitions for the girls (one to another foster home and then another to your home) but this quick of a placement is just horrible. At the very least, the sw should have had a visit with you and the girls regardless if the fmom could make it or not.

If the girls were in play therapy, then I would have assumed they had a necessary reason to be in there. So yes...someone knew or suspected of the abuse. If this wasn't presented to you as a possibility by the social worker, your agency worker should have picked up on it.

I'm sorry this worked out this way, and while I do see several red flags of possible outcomes from your post, I also know that your agency should have been acting on your behalf and it just doesn't sound like they were.

If you are comfortable, please pm me and I can tell you a bit about our situation. We had a foster care adoption and our agency was absolutely the best!! Please do take a break or whatever, but when emotions calm down a bit, I do hope this doesn't turn you off forever on adopting a waiting child.

Crick