[becky]

Angie,

My 'personal opinion' is that it might be best to bring your infant home and let her adjust and bond...then look into toddler adoption. Toddler adoption is a whole different experience and it takes a lot of time and energy to assist a toddler with the bonding process.

There are certainly people who have adopted sibling groups in this situation and that is a completely different scenario. Because they are siblings they must be adopted together. But you are talking about choosing to adopt two unrelated children in two different age groups. It can be done, and there are those who have done it and will tell you it is wonderful. But if you read a lot on the subject you will find that most social workers and adoption professionals would not recommend this situation. In fact there are some agencies that will not even refer children in this situation. I strongly suggest you read "The Weavers Craft"...it is a wonderful guide to the world of toddler adoption and some of the challenges you might face.

I think it is great that you want to continue to grow your family...but you might want to consider letting your little one come home, adjusting to that and bonding with her, and then adding a toddler to your family a little bit later.

Good Luck!