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I wanted to post an update.
My sister apologized to me for all the stress she may have caused me with her original resistence of this adoption. Her change of heart came after she spoke with an older woman who adopted her grandchild and quit her job to form an agency to help families who are adopting a relative.
My cousin is all of 14 years old and the boy is nowhere to be found. She only knows his first name and that he moved to North Carolina. This is where our lawyer would come in in trying to track him down.
My parents are thrilled about this adoption and realized that things will be ok.
My cousin and her 23 year old sister and I are all on the same page. When I am in town I will be speaking with my family about this adoption to formally announce it.... we are not an extended family not in a nuclear sense...so it would be impossible (and silly) to hide this pregnancy or the adoption in itself...especially when its family that I interact with, and especially considering genetics, the baby is gonna look like her if he doesnt look like his dad.
It is an open adoption...which the pbmom and I feel is a healthy thing for the baby and for her and I...and she does want to everyone to know about this. She has been very adamant that she wants us to adopt this baby.
It really is her decision, and I cannot honor her mother's paranoia by keeping things a secret. We are just thrilled.
Thanks for sharing how things were for your adoption experience.
--AdrienneG
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