[LisaCA]

I'd stay in a hotel, for a couple of reasons, the main one being your parents. Dh's parents really wanted us to come visit and visited us when dd was small. we said okay, we'll stay with you-big mistake. grandpa was not ready for a baby, period, didn't understand what kids do, that they make noise, etc. Life would have been easier at a hotel.

2nd, you'll have space from bmom and your parents, which you may want from time to time.

Just make it seem as if your child is a loud one and you're doing this sacrifice for the betterment of all, then enjoy the cool hotel you've picked out. view it as a chance for pampering yourself when your child's asleep.

your parent's may see bmom as someone who needs some attention at this moment, and they've probably forgotten that you need attention too. A gentle reminder would probably be useful. I know my parents would have focused on bmom if I brought her home ten years ago: dad cooking everthing for her and mom just focusing on her. They do that same thing to my husband-ick. anyway, i hope it all works out for you all. have fun,

Lisa