[blessedbybug]

My feeling is you need to do what makes you comfortable, however, I do believe that communication is key here. You do not want your child's first mom to feel like you are avoiding her, yet you don't want to overwhelm her. I would talk with her, whether it is directly or through your parents.

It may be complicated by how you feel about how your parents are treating her vs. you. I would be very careful NOT to drag those feelings into the relationship with your child's birthmom, as it in most ways is a completely different issue. Your relnship with your Mom, your child's relnship with Gma, and your child's first mother's relnship with you and your child are all different and should be dealt with differently. For a first visit with your child's first mom, I would be very careful to focus on her feelings first, what would make her most comfortable and deal with the rest of it later. If I were her, and seeing your child for the first time, I think I would defintely want some space to deal with the emotions of it, to not be awakened in the middle of the night by cries, etc. But that may not be how she feels... talk to her.

I do hope your weekend goes smoothly. What a blessing to have this time with your child's first mother!!!