[SchmennaLeigh]

For our first visit, we stayed in a hotel. Every visit after that has been all under one roof.

I would suggest asking the Birthmother what would make her feel most comfortable. You can get all the advice you want but if she's expecting you to do one thing or another and you don't approach her concerning something that is so vitally important to her healing... what good will it do? Simply state that you're looking out for her emotional well-being and ask which she would feel most comfortable with at this time.