[txhope]

Ok, so we're just starting the adoption process & research and I have a couple of questions.

1) Where are all the healthy / relatively healthy infants in the state foster care system? I just can not believe that there are no caucasion / or caucasion / mix infants taken away from parents or abandoned in the state of Texas...so where are they and how do I find them? I got an information packet from the state and it stated that the children that were available were older (over 8), or had non-correctable medical problems, or emotional, or developmental problems. Now, I'm not necessarily opposed to all these things, but I do think there are limits in our ability as first time parents.

2) My wonderful misguided husband wants a boy first. Now, I've explained to him that if we were to concieve a child there's no guarantee on the sex of the child. His theory is that if we're spending $20K-$30K on adoption, we should be able to chose what we want. Needless to say, we're still discussing this. BUT, do any adoption agencies let you specify the sex of the baby you want to adopt? I got three information packets, one from the state and two from private agencies, and none of them would let you specify.

Sorry this is so long...I feel like we're just starting and already out of luck and it's pointless to continue.

Thanks for any replies.