[mallory4]

lakin11, we, too, chose to add to our family thru foster/adopt even though we have 3 biokids and assume we could have more without any problems.

Some people seem to think we are squandering our family resources (financial, parenting energy, etc) by adding to our family, and have said so.

We, on the other hand, think we have given our kids something much more valuable than material possessions, and even more valuable than an always well-rested mom (if there even is such a thing).

First of all, they have a sibling they adore and enjoy tremendously. Second, they have the example of seeing their parents put their beliefs into actions, instead of just paying lip service to them: All children are equally worthy of love and families.

We think these gifts are worth more than a lifestyle upgrade to compete with other people's cars, clothes, or vacations.

People, even those that love us, just don't always get it!