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i have no children yet, but i spend a few days a week with my best friend and her 2 BEAUTIFUL boys. they are 2 years and 2 days apart. before the baby came, evan was the center, and i mean, CENTER of not only his parents' attention, buy my husband and i as well. he is my special little man. but when little cole came along in may, this sweet, gentle, sensitive evan would poke, scratch, and basically try to kill his little brother (i don't mean like a crazy-blood thirsty kid, just like, hmmm, what would happen if i put a pillow on his face?). his poor mother was so taken aback. she couldn't believe how suddenly aggressive evan appeared to be. i couldn't either, but since i was reading alot about adoption, and it talked about how children act in the beginning with a new sibling, i reassured her that evan was acting this way b/c he felt comfortable of his parents love that he could act the way he felt. about 2 months later, evan stopped doing anything even remotely aggressive, and now he LOOOVES cole. he loves to make him laugh, he'll go and hug and kiss him for no reason, even if he doesn't know he's being watched. he talks to him, and cole ADORES evan. so i assume from this that it is very rough in the beginning, and on top of being sleep deprived, you have a new challenge with your older one, but it passes. i hope this helped even a little!!
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