[becky]

I have read the first 3 or 4 chapters. I have found it somewhat enlightening. In all honesty I do not believe that the teenage problems she mentioned were necessarily adoption related at all. As the parent of three teenagers (non of whom were adopted) I can honestly say that 'issues' in the teenage years have move to do with the specific child than anything else. I have two who have moved through these years very easily and one who has had more problems than I care to think about. Did I raise them any differently? No. Did I love them any differently? No. The difference...this child has a competely different personality and set of interests than the two other. I can see this happening with adopted children as well...some will effortlessly and easily move to adulthood and others will not.

The thing that I like best about the book is that it brings an awareness to some parents who probably never even considered the idea that their child might grow up and leave them for their birthfamily or birth country. I do not think many families who are currently parenting young children ever think of this as even a possibility.

I will share more as I continue into the book...