[RiverGal]

mabear ~ Not all adoptees have a burning desire to search for the Bfamily anymore than all Bioparents would welcome contact. Whatever the reasoning, an adoptee should have the courtesy of medical information without feeling obligated to give something on an emotional level. I don't mean to sound calloused, but (IMO) it is not her place to have to deal with any of the Bmom's residual feelings and/or problems.

emsd55 has no obligation to her Bmom. Sure, she gave her life, and her parents gave her the rest. It is not up the her/him to resolve the feelings of Bmom.

While I strongly advocate for the accessability of medical history, I am very much opposed to the perpetuation of the myth that either party "owes" the other any level of a relationship that is not comfortable or welcomed.

Just my opinion.

~Deb