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HI EVERYONE!
These may be only MY thoughts, but if I were a birth mother and learned my child wanted ONLY medical information with no meeting or potential relationship, I would be very unhappy. The "gimme gimme goodbye'' approach would be a big turnoff.
Sure it's scarey looking for a parent and risking rejection, but why wouldn't you at least think of her feelings in this? Give her a chance to share her feelings and problems which no doubt are many.
I'm not judging you, but I think you are taking a very one-sided look at this. Even if your a-parents are perfect, there are other reasons besides your needs to give something on an emotional level to the woman who gave you life.
Hugs,
Mary S.
P. S. Now, on the other hand, should you find your
b-mom and she refuses to see you or communicate with you, THEN I WOULD INSIST ON HER PROVIDING YOU WITH MEDICAL INFORMATION, which I feel is your basic right.
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mabear
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