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Your welcome. My mother is also controlling and I have learned recently not to discuss any more adoption stuff with her. I referred her to a book called "Lost and Found" written by the same author who wrote "Journey of the Adopted Self" and surprisingly, she is checked it out from the library. I decided in order to keep myself safe I wasn't going to discuss my adoption issues with people except adoptees. My best friend is an adoptee, my daughter's Godmother is an adoptee and another good friend of mine is an adoptee. I stick with them because they understand. Others always have their opinions but they don't really know what it is like and trying to explain it to them is like trying to fit a round lid on a square pot! If your mom had fertility issues, maybe she has never dealt with them. At least I know my mom has spent years covering up her pain and taking it out on me and others. She is 73. I wish she would get some help from a therapist but women from that generation just don't really like to admit there is a problem even when the rest of us are screaming, "THERE IS A PROBLEM!!"
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