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Originally Posted By Tyler'sBmom8-31-2000(Shannon)

I have a website with a birthmom support board if you'd like to visit. There are also pics of Tyler and journal entries there. I used to leave my email address for anyone who needed to or wanted to talk. But since there have been so many negative postings I don't anymore. But I will email you if you'd like. I don't think a bmom can ever completely let go, but over time the pain does get easier to live with. It takes a tremendous amount of work, determination and strength to get your life back to something resembling normal. It can and does happen though. Give yourself a chance to grieve as you need too. Not as others tell you that you should. There is no wrong way (as long as you are keeping yourself safe) and there is no time limit. But don't let it consume you as a person. Being a bmom becomes a part of who you are but not the only thing you are. Make sense? You've done something that few are strong enough to even consider ever doing. Let yourself also feel good about something. Even if it's a small thing. It's a start. If you like to write, keep a journal. It's a great way to get out how you're feeling. It's also a safe way...ie....no one to judge you since it's private. I hope some of this will help. I'm sorry for not posting earlier. I visit a lot of boards and don't always have a chance to make it back to some for a while. Many Many hugs to you,
Shannon
http://communities.msn.com/ABirthmomsStory