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I am an adult adoptee who has recently reunited with my birthmother. My amom was always supportive, but I know that it was a little hard for her. I am the child she took as her very own. There are some insecurities there, but she has always stood by me and supported me.
I was always honest with my mother, even when I thought it may be a little hard at times, I have been honest. I would rather let her know what was actually going on than have her guess and her imagination run away with her. I also didn't want her to feel like I was doing anything behind her back.
The one thing I think I might have done differently is not go into such detail with her. I'm not saying hide anything, but she doesn't have to know every feeling and emotion.
Both of my mom's have been wonderful and they have met one another. It has gone well and my bmom is so respectful and understanding of any fears, even though they are irrational, that my bmom may have.
I think the best thing is time. My amom has seen that Diane hasn't replaced her, we have become an extended family and she will always be my mom.
Good luck to you!
Sincerely,
Carolyn
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