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Old 10-17-2005, 06:45 AM
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***Warning....I'm talking attachment.***
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She will cry and cry and put her arms out to me with this pained look on her face
That's the answer to your question...she NEEDS to be held....

Alex is held more than he isn't...if he asks for 'uppa'....uppa he gets...he still doesn't truly believe that I will not leave him...

We are home 19 months...Alex has insecure/anxious attachment...if you want my personal, experienced attachment struggled Mom advice...she is no where near ready to be told no...but only you know your child...I believe I've offered you this info before, but PM me if you want more info on attachment struggles in infants and toddlers...

You have been home a very short period of time in relation to the attachment process...not all kids transition easily...I believe 18 months is the time frame quoted in Attaching in Adoption...

Are you using a Hip Hammock?

Use it for what's it's worth for you...but it is so much easier to address the attachment front now....it just gets harder for everyone involved once you've been home longer.
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*Yaya~My Siberian Sweetie ~born in 2001~Home 2002~Now 8 and a 'Tween', and in 3rd grade. She's all girl!!!

*Bubbs~My Samaran Sunshine~born in 2003~Home 2004~now 6, in Kindy and such a sweet, silly & special boy!


'My wish, for you, is that this life becomes all that you want it to, your dreams stay big, and your worries stay small, You never need to carry more than you can hold, and while you're out there getting where you're getting to, I hope you know somebody loves you, and wants the same things too, Yeah, this, is my wish.'
~"My Wish" by Rascal Flatts


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