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the love languages book is excellent. they have it for couples, for teens, and for singles too.
basically the premise is that we all have a "language" that we speak to show love and a "language" we understand to receive love.
if my child perceives love by words of affirmation, but i am doling out love in my language of gift giving, he is not receiving the message of my love.
some kids need touch - that's their love language.
some people need acts of service - that's how they FEEL loved.
so the key is to find out what language of love your child needs from you, and focus on communicating to him/her with that language.
it's really true - we all have a certain way we feel valued, validated and loved.
the teen version is GREAT!!!!!! during adolescence, you definitely want to maximize on the love languages as you and your child wade thru all the "stuff" that this phase brings.
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"As you do not know the path of the wind,
or how the body is formed in a mother's womb,
so you cannot understand the work of God,
the Maker of all things." Ecclesiastes 11:5
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