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Thank you to everyone who has replied.. I did want to say that I am sad that she is not attached to anyone at this point, as I know that it is very critical for young children to build an attachment with a parent. At her age, not having one could be difficult, but nothing that we are not willing to work at.
Anyway, to update, we finally got to see her (Faith) on Wednesday. WOW! For a child who was born at 24 weeks, she doesnt show it. The nursery she is in, is a wonderful "homey" setting. There are some issues that my husband and I have that we discussed with the staff and with Faith's Caseworker, as well as our own.
The sad part is, as wonderful as a setting she is in, it still isn't the best. They are part funded by the state, but other than that it is donations. So, when I saw Faith's room, which she shares with 4 other babies.. she had sheet and one thin blanket. (needless to say, by that evening, she had a lot more!). Understandably, they are really not able to take the time to focus much on her like she needs, as there are 9 babies there that are younger than her and a 3 yr old. So she is either in her crib, a pack 'n' play, or the highchair about 80% of the time. Due to that, she is about 3-6 months behind for children her age.
Another thing that I raised concern about, and that IS changing, is when talking with the staff, I learned that in the evening when they put the G-Tube in her, they put her PJ's on backwards, tuck her arms inside her jammies and tie the PJ arms behind her back then leave her there for the 3 hour feeding. I am NOT confortable with that at all. So, with talking to the caseworkers, the staff and her doctor..and as her soon to be mom... that will no longer be happening. Either myself or my husband will be going there in the evening and holding her for the feeding. That also will give us great bonding time with her.
Also, the G-tube is only 300 calories of pediasure. Again, talking with the doctor, we are hoping to eleminate that all together very soon after she moves in. Only because I am a stay @ home mom, I can make those calories up during the day. So, keep your fingers crossed that it will work.
We have an appointment Monday with a visiting nurse who is going to show us how to do the G-tube. THen Tuesday is a Home Visit. After that, we will do an outing and maybe 2 more home visits...then an overnight weekend..and then home for good. We are looking at the 1-2 week of Novemeber to have her in our home for Good.
Our 5 yr old daughter is very excitied to have a baby sister. The two of them get along wonderful. The visit we had Wednesday, Faith fell asleep on my husband's shoulder and gave me lots of kisses. I really think this is a great match for my family.
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