I just want to introduce myself, I think we may actually start moving down this road soon
My husband and I have bio children through IVF, but still feel the desire to add to our family. I hope talking about bio kids is OK here, is it?
We have been waffling about really deciding to do this, and how to do it for a while. I have always felt that I could 'see' myself adopting a daughter from China. We thought about Russia, to avoid racial issues, but with all the confusion about adopting there, plus the feeling I had (not feeling motivated to go there), my husband is coming around to the idea of China. He actually went out and purchased 'Adoption for Dummies' the other day, as a surprise to me!
Hmmm, is he trying to say something?
We have yet to find an agency, we live in NY and would like to use a NY agency, to simplify things. If anyone has any rec's, I'd love to hear them! Anyone live on Long Island?
I am enjoying reading posts, blogs and visiting the websites you all link here, thank you! I have alot to learn.
Now, I have a funny story for you all. I am no stranger to stupid comments from people in regard to my family (we have a slightly unusual situation, fertility challenges, IVF, multiples,etc), but today DH got a real doozy! And from a very good friend, who is intelligent and well educated. DH was discussing our plan to adopt with this friend, who then commented that he was concerned for us, that we would not know the psychological condition of a child coming from an orphanage. He told us of a family he knew who adopted 2 boys, one young and one a little older. He said the younger boy adjusted well, but the older one was always 'trouble'. And that when they grew up, the older boy killed his parents!!!
I dont know if this is even a true story, but.... why tell DH? as a warning? that adopted kids are more prone to patricide? whaaaaaaaaat? I am stumped by this one. I wonder if he was trying to be 'funny'
Anyway..... wish us luck, please!
Thanks!
Jen